Falling in Love with YOURSELF!

To the single ladies!

The first step into your new life is to start dating the most important person in your life.. that being you! Its time to discover what you love and who you really are. A lot of times people forget about their true self after being in an abusive relationship. You leave feeling worthless and not good enough, but I'm here to tell you that you can break down those negative walls! You can sparkle again and live the life you've always dreamed of. You don't have to be single to do this either... get ready to look at yourself in a whole new light.

1. write a list of everything you want to do now that your free
I actually have my list posted up on my desk so I look at it all the time. I'm taking it week by week...one thing at a time:) Currently I'm involved in a cleanse so I can start fresh and get all those jerko toxins out!

2. Take yourself out on a date! Pamper yourself and be your best lover.
It was a Wednesday morning when I asked myself out on a date. I ended up getting butterflies and graciously accepted the invitation for Friday night. Friday night came around and I dressed up.. actually showered and even shaved my legs! I went all out....I deserve the best:). 

Then I took myself to the Mall of America.. went shopping and ended up at a beautiful restaurant overlooking the romantic lights of the rides flicking in the darkness of the evening. I enjoyed spreading my joy with all those around me... I became quite popular among the waiters haha. Then as I was waiting for my food, I took out my journal and began asking questions... So Kimberly... What do you like to do? What are you passionate about?.. and I began really getting to know myself. After dinner I spent the last hour trying to recover from the half a glass of wine I consumed... oops. 

I found my way into Build-a-Bear believe it or not. Its almost an eerie place though.. all those un-stuffed cadaver animals laying around. Its not a place I would like to find myself alone at night.. that's for sure. I picked out the cutest bunny skin I could find .. walked up to the stuffer lady and handed it to her. She had me take a little heart..rub it wherever I wanted (lol appropriate places people jeez) and then put it inside my bunny. I had put it on my own heart and thought about how much I love myself. I named it "my cutie". :) Never again will I have to become attached to a stuffed animal and have to throw it away because I'm not with that guy anymore. Turned out to be the best date of my life! I really know how to spoil myself:)

Since then I've been on a few dates... and each time I find myself enjoying my own company more and more.

3. write little notes to yourself around your apartment/home.

On my bathroom mirrors I now have little post-its saying: Hey beautiful... stay sweet.. your looking good today hot mama.. hahaha!!! But I read them everyday and they make me smile. I did the same thing in my planner:)

4. read the book "... and She Sparkled" by Joan Stedffend.  
A friend recommended it to me and it is seriously adorable. I read it on my bath date I had with myself: 

"Beautiful music, candles glistening, warm water, soothing chocolate treats, fluffy bubbles, poetry."  (best bath EVER) haha

Just starting with these four points can take you a long ways. It can take you all the way to telling yourself "I love you" and really mean it.

It helped me realize how worth it I am.. how much I do deserve....and how great it is to be me. So ladies.. go date yourself! Please share any date ideas in the comment section below! I'd love to hear them...

Peace and Love,

Giggles:)